Preparing Siblings for a New Baby and Birth at Home
Welcoming a new baby is a moment of joy and transition for the entire family. For older siblings, the arrival of a baby can bring excitement, curiosity, and sometimes uncertainty. Preparing them thoughtfully helps create a smooth and positive experience, especially if you’re planning a homebirth where siblings may be nearby during labour and birth.
Start the Conversation Early
Children thrive when they know what to expect. Begin talking about the new baby as soon as you feel ready.
Use age-appropriate language to explain pregnancy and birth.
Share books or videos about welcoming a sibling to help them visualise the experience.
Encourage them to ask questions and express their feelings, even if those feelings are mixed.
By involving them early, you create space for connection and reassurance.
Helping Them Feel Included
Siblings often adjust more easily when they feel involved.
Invite them to feel the baby’s movements or listen to the heartbeat at appointments (if appropriate).
Let them help with small preparations, like folding baby clothes or choosing a special toy for their new brother or sister.
Consider giving them a “big sibling” role, such as fetching nappies or singing to the baby once they arrive.
This builds pride and a sense of responsibility while strengthening family bonds.
Planning for the Birth Day
Homebirth offers unique opportunities for siblings to be part of the experience, but it’s important to plan carefully.
Decide whether your child will be present during labour and birth, or if it’s better for them to spend time with a trusted caregiver elsewhere.
If they’ll be at home, assign a dedicated support person—like a grandparent or family friend—whose sole role is to care for them.
Prepare them by explaining what they might hear or see during labour, such as noises, midwives moving around, or you being very focused.
Some children love being part of the birth, while others prefer to join shortly afterward for those magical first cuddles.
Adjusting to Life with a New Baby
After birth, children may need extra reassurance as family routines shift.
Spend one-on-one time with them to help them feel secure.
Praise their efforts in their new role as a sibling.
Acknowledge their feelings—whether excitement, frustration, or jealousy—with empathy and patience.
These small gestures go a long way in creating a strong, loving sibling bond.
Your Midwife’s Support
At Birth Tribe Midwifery, we work with families to create a birth plan that includes older children’s needs and emotional wellbeing. Together, we’ll discuss options for sibling involvement, support strategies, and ways to help the whole family transition smoothly.
Homebirth isn’t just about where you welcome your baby—it’s about creating a nurturing family experience, where everyone feels safe, supported, and connected.